Illness dating

Health advocate and blogger Leslie Rott has a three-date rule: “I think it gets harder to tell the longer you wait, and, in reality, you don’t want to be with someone who can’t accept or handle your illness.” Author, TV personality, and children’s advocate Christine Schwab recommends holding off, saying it is a discussion for a serious relationship: “I am not saying ignore your RA; talk to your doctor or your therapist, but not your date.

It can kill the best of dates.” Chris Lowthian also prefers not to disclose before a date: “I just want to go out and have a good time! When it comes to revealing the fact that they have RA, a number of Creaky Joints members say they turn to social media.

All of these can make dating—often an ego-shattering minefield for those in perfect health—even trickier.

Mental health conditions come in far too many forms—depression, suicidal tendencies, anxiety, bipolar disorder, OCD, substance abuse, addiction, eating disorders, schizophrenia, personality disorders, autism and Asperger’s, those that don’t immediately come to mind and so many layers within each of those conditions—to try to come up with a one-size fits all approach for how to deal with dating someone who is mentally ill.

Over the past five years, several sites—such as,, and—have launched to serve the needs of people with conditions ranging from bipolar disorder to Crohn's disease.

Together these sites now boast tens of thousands of members.

Honestly, don’t even bother asking because people will be very rude to you and unfriend you on Facebook. That’s from the Bible, which is kind of like God’s blog so we know it’s true.

But keeping your pals on hand for advice and reassurances that you’re a good and brilliant egg who deserves love can be lifesaving when you’re navigating the notoriously cruel and confusing world of romance and dating. You need broccoli and ice cream and all the other food groups to survive. If they’re big and they’re making you feel out of control, then slow down.


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